Waiting’s Worth by Leonard Lu

Children want things now…but lovers learn to wait…We wait for what is worth waiting for     -Philip Yancey-

An Unexpected Gift

                My friend asked me to buy a book on relationships for her one day. After considering her situation and spiritual level, I picked out a book for her – “A Man Worth Waiting For – How to Avoid a Bozo” by Jackie Kendall. On the day I passed it to her, she said, “No. It’s for you!”

                I was dumbfounded! I am a guy and I’m supposed to read “A Man Worth Waiting For”? How ironic is that? But I decided to read it anyway. I thought to myself, “At least I’ll get to understand what women want in a man.” Boy, how wrong was I!

Boaz Waits VS Bozo Persuades

                The book uses the example of Boaz in the bible and compares it to what a Bozo would do.  I was hooked on to the book from the beginning until the end, not only because of its writing style, but also because it reminded me of a truth that many of us men, have forgotten and many of you ladies, have begun to believe it as a myth. “Yes! There are Men Worth Waiting For(MWWF), and yes, they are worth the wait!”

                There are many things that the writer talks about but there is one thing in particular that the writer seems to keep shouting out – WAIT! The writer even says that if it takes you until 50 to wait for the MWWF, then wait because he is worth the wait! My pastor once said, “It is better to not marry, then to have a bad marriage.”

                The key that the writer gave is this: Boaz waits, Bozos persuades. All of us know that couple’s love takes time to develop, to adapt and to change. But sadly, the world is leading our youths down the path of holding hands, back-rubbing, waist-touching and kissing! I am not against these things, but these things do hinder us from true growth in a couple’s relationship. For instance, how many of us think that 2 parties of the opposite sex are considered a couple only when they start holding hands? Can you imagine a courtship without any of the mentioned? If you can’t, believe me when I say you much rethink your concept of love.

Waiting = Worth

                My mother always tells me, “The moment you pop the question that leads to courtship, love is blind”. Thus, it is crucial for us to ask ourselves, “Is the one WORTH-y enough for us to wait for confirmation from God, even if it takes a long time?” Is waiting for God’s peace my first priority or my own agenda? Do I take time to seek the counsel of my parents/ spiritual elders or listen to my heart?

                Something that is worth-y, is worth waiting for. In other words, if you don’t wait, I will question if it is really important to you. God has His time, which as we wait, might seem impossibly long to us. But believe me when I say (and the writer would agree), “True love waits for God’s answers to be revealed.” Don’t feel panic if God’s answer seem to come too late (especially if you have a deadline). Maybe His answer is for you to wait, because what He is giving you is worth your wait.