Children
want things now…but lovers learn to wait…We wait for what is worth waiting for -Philip Yancey-
An Unexpected Gift
My friend asked
me to buy a book on relationships for her one day. After considering her
situation and spiritual level, I picked out a book for her – “A Man Worth
Waiting For – How to Avoid a Bozo” by Jackie Kendall. On the day I passed it to
her, she said, “No. It’s for you!”
I was
dumbfounded! I am a guy and I’m supposed to read “A Man Worth Waiting For”? How
ironic is that? But I decided to read it anyway. I thought to myself, “At least
I’ll get to understand what women want in a man.” Boy, how wrong was I!
Boaz Waits VS Bozo
Persuades
The book uses the example
of Boaz in the bible and compares it to what a Bozo would do. I was hooked on to the book from the
beginning until the end, not only because of its writing style, but also
because it reminded me of a truth that many of us men, have forgotten and many
of you ladies, have begun to believe it as a myth. “Yes! There are Men Worth Waiting For(MWWF), and yes,
they are worth the wait!”
There are many
things that the writer talks about but there is one thing in particular that
the writer seems to keep shouting out – WAIT! The writer even says that if it
takes you until 50 to wait for the MWWF, then wait because he is worth the wait! My
pastor once said, “It is better to not
marry, then to have a bad marriage.”
The key that
the writer gave is this: Boaz waits,
Bozos persuades. All of us know that couple’s love takes time to develop,
to adapt and to change. But sadly, the world is leading our youths down the
path of holding hands, back-rubbing, waist-touching and kissing! I am not
against these things, but these things do hinder us from true growth in a couple’s
relationship. For instance, how many of us think that 2 parties of the opposite
sex are considered a couple only when they start
holding hands? Can you imagine a courtship without any of the mentioned? If
you can’t, believe me when I say you much
rethink your concept of love.
Waiting = Worth
My mother
always tells me, “The moment you pop the question that leads to courtship, love
is blind”. Thus, it is crucial for us to ask ourselves, “Is the one WORTH-y enough for us to wait
for confirmation from God, even if it takes a long time?” Is waiting for God’s
peace my first priority or my own agenda? Do I take time to seek the counsel of
my parents/ spiritual elders or listen to my heart?
Something that
is worth-y, is worth waiting for. In other words, if you don’t wait, I will
question if it is really important to you. God has His time, which as we wait,
might seem impossibly long to us. But believe me when I say (and the writer
would agree), “True love waits for God’s answers to be revealed.” Don’t feel panic
if God’s answer seem to come too late (especially if you have a deadline).
Maybe His answer is for you to wait, because what He is giving you is worth
your wait.
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